Why I Deleted Snapchat

November 23, 2016

Snapchat is fun. It allows people to send funny photos, converse with each other, and have streaks to confirm the friendship. So why did I delete snapchat?

I would look at other people’s stories and feel left out. Their stories taunted me- by no means did they mean to- but nevertheless I felt lonely. While their stories confirmed their friendship, they served as reminders that I wasn’t invited to join in on their fun.

I felt excluded. That’s the main reason.

I also deleted it because I didn’t snapchat that many people anyways. The people I had streaks with weren’t close friends and were doing it to keep the streak rather than trying to become better friends. Most of the time, the stories I posted were me complaining about something. So, I deleted snapchat.

Since then, I’ve had more time to do other things more important than looking at other people’s stories or keeping up with a streak. Yes, it does get lonely at times, but I was lonely even when I did have snapchat.

I am thinking about re-downloading it after the first semester. There are some people that I would like to keep in contact with through snapchat. Who knows, maybe I’ll re-download it. But for now, I’m staying off of snapchat.

My Relationship Advice (Romantic and Platonic)

November 22, 2016

I have made mistakes of my own and witnessed mistakes of others, so here’s my few pennies worth on this subject.

1. You have to be your own person first.

Too many people lose their identities because they want to fit in. In the process, they isolate themselves from their true friends. In a couple of years, fitting in with that group will not matter anymore.

This also applies to romantic relationships. I’ve seen others become so engrossed with their romantic partners that everything else falls away. Once the relationship ends, they don’t know what to do with themselves and quickly move on to a new significant other, which leads me to my next advice.

2. Give yourself a period of time (at least a month) to be single before dating someone else, especially if you just came out of a long term relationship.

I feel that it’s important to reflect on the relationship and really think about it. What did you learn about yourself? You have to grow as an individual. I think it’s very unhealthy to relationship hop because to me, it shows that the person is addicted to a feeling- the “honeymoon phase” feelings.

3. Be brave enough to break your own heart. 

It’s nice to have someone to cuddle and be intimate with. But what if you know that the person you’re with is not the one? Are you willing to break your heart?

I had a classmate that told me that she didn’t feel like she had the strength to break up with her boyfriend at the time even though she wanted to. I found that to be very saddening. For one, this ties back to the first piece of advice of becoming your own person; she had lost her identity in the relationship. Secondly, I felt sad for the other person because I realized that she was just keeping him around for the sake of having a boyfriend and the perks that come along with it.

From my understanding, her boyfriend wasn’t all that great to her. She deceived herself by saying she was happy how things turned out because she didn’t want to let go.

To the guys and girls that have gotten comfortable in a relationship but know your significant other is not the one, don’t settle. Be brave enough to let go.

4. The people that communicate with you even when they don’t need or want something from you are your true friends.

Most of the time, the text messages that come up on my phone are related to school. Usually, someone needs photos of notes and that’s the end of the conversation.

5. It’s ok to cut ties with people. It doesn’t mean that you hate them; it just means that you respect yourself.

They may be good people, but you don’t like what they do. For me, I started cutting ties because I realized that even though I was prioritizing them in my life, they weren’t doing the same for me. So, I started to back off. Yes, it can be lonely, but I rather surround myself with people that truly enjoy my presence than with people that don’t put in effort on their part.

Honestly, I’m guilty of not putting in effort on my part also. It is something that I regret, and I’m making efforts to not do that again.

My Mission Statement

November 22, 2016

There’s a lot to think about and growing up that happens during senior year. College, scholarships, friends, relationships, etc. Problems that have been set aside are brought to the forefront. As seniors, we can no longer procrastinate on the things that we wish to ignore.

The infamous question “What do you want to be when you grow up” demands an answer. No longer can we avoid this question. We are considered grown up. But yet, most of us don’t have an answer.

Through my mission statement, I hope that it will guide me in the right direction. Who knows, maybe it will change as life goes on.

My mission statement currently: I’m on a journey to find my purpose in this world by serving others and gaining knowledge.”

Why I started this

November 21, 2016

You know how sometimes you just have so much to say in your head or have a lot of thoughts swirling around? That’s me. I think that typing my thoughts will help me organize what I’m thinking or feeling. Even now, I struggle what to type because I feel that my thoughts are disorganized.

So hopefully, by using a blog platform, I will be able to visually see what I mean and be able to successfully communicate my thoughts. I’m also doing this to improve my writing skills.