I just remembered this funny incident that happened my sophomore year and wanted to write it down. At the time, we were learning about real numbers. Then someone asks…
“Are there fake numbers since there are real numbers?”
Obviously, that makes sense. Since there are real numbers, there should be fake numbers. But if you know math, you know that there’s no such thing as fake numbers.
The teacher replies, “No, but there are imaginary numbers.”
*person’s mind boggled*
Math is really weird and confusing.
“I’ve been examining my values lately, and determining whether or not I like the feelings that result from those values.”
“What’s an example of one of your values?”
“I’m very competitive.”
“And what’s a feeling that results from being competitive?”
“How does competitiveness result in jealousy?”
“When you have a competitive mindset, you tend to view the world in terms of winners and losers. So you resent other people getting recognition, because you somehow believe that less recognition is available to you. I’m learning that this is a false mindset. There’s not a fixed amount of success and recognition in the world. So another person’s accomplishments don’t diminish the accomplishments available to you.”
Did we make the right decision? I don’t think they could have made a wrong decision, and I wanted them to know this. They had someone on their side, no matter what.
I came upon these words of wisdom from an article that I read. It was about a family that took their daughter off of life support, and they asked their genetic counselor the question of making the right decision. His response to the question applies not only to his field of work but also to our lives as well.
Many times, we question if what we’re doing is the right thing to do. The world is not a black and white place; there’s a lot of grey area to it. One of my friends jokingly calls me a George Washington because I stand neutral on the things that he asks. It’s because I like to weigh out all of my options before making my decision. Generally, I can argue for both sides. There’s always going to be a pro and con in a grey world.
Sometimes, there’s not a right or best decision. It’s just the choice that will be best for the future. No matter the decision, there’s going to be someone on both sides to validate their stance.
Christmas is a joyous time. Everyone comes back to visit their family; presents are given; great food is cooked and eaten. I used to not understand why people would be sad during the Christmas season but now I do.
If you take yourself out of the action and look from an outsider’s perspective, you’ll realize how lonely you’ll feel. What if you have no family or friends? What if you have no presents to give? What if you don’t need to cook food for a Christmas meal because you have no family or friends to cook it for? The Christmas season is a slap to the face for those who find themselves alone during this time. It is a bit ironic that Christmas is called the “most wonderful time of the year” even though depression and suicide rates rise as this holiday approaches.
My introvert personality, me seemingly constantly studying, and the need of alone time has caused me to not have that many close friends. Sometimes, I do get sad that no one hits me up to hang out or I’m the backup person, but I’m learning to be deal with it.
I think it’s more important to figure out how to deal with that loneliness than trying to fill the ache with something that’s not going to last. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t trust your friends. You should trust your friends. But people change, and that loneliness will never go away if you try to fill it with the people around you.
I’m a lot happier than I have been in previous years, but I’m still learning to be content with myself. Something I learned is that I don’t need other people to validate my value. I make my own identity; I’m invaluable. If other people don’t see my worth, that’s not my problem. They’re missing out on this wonderful person (me), and that’s their lost not mine. That concept made me feel powerful. In the end, I realize that being content with myself means realizing my own worth in the eyes of myself and not in the eyes of others.
“Loneliness is a sign you are in desperate need of yourself.”
― Rupi Kaur, milk and honey
My definition of smart probably differs from a lot of my classmates. Many would define “smart” as a person who seems to know everything, gets everything correct, and makes the highest grades. While all of that may be true, I don’t view being smart solely in that way.
I believe being smart is the willingness and the ability to learn and try. We all are smart. However, it is our decision tap into our brain and actually give an effort to learn the material before us. You may struggle in trying to understand something, but the importance lies in the effort that you put forth. That is being smart.
Making the conscious choice of giving up and not learning is the choice to stay ignorant. The decision to opt out and not even give it a shot makes you ignorant. There’s so much to know in this world.
A big peeve of mine is when people think that they know it all and act like they’re better than everyone else around them. Maybe they are better than those around them, but for goodness sake! There’s approximately seven billion people in the world! You only know a small fraction of the world! It may feel like that you know everything, but in reality, you just know your one seven billionth piece of the world.
Making the grades and such comes as a byproduct of being smart (unless you cheated). It is remaining inquisitive, making that extra effort, and being a lifelong learner that makes a person smart.
There’s always some days where you just want to sit down and give up. It feels like the world is against you. It could be one of those slow days where you don’t want to do anything- the lack of motivation wallowing in your bones.
GET UP AND DO IT! You’ve come so far; it’s not the time to give up. All that effort will go to waste if you decide to give up. You can almost smell that sweet aroma of victory, just tantalizingly out of reach. You’re almost there! All the blood, sweat, and tears will be worth it once you reach that goal of yours. Don’t give up because things are hard. It will make you become a stronger and better person. Not only will others believe in you, but you will also believe in yourself and your abilities.