My definition of smart probably differs from a lot of my classmates. Many would define “smart” as a person who seems to know everything, gets everything correct, and makes the highest grades. While all of that may be true, I don’t view being smart solely in that way.
I believe being smart is the willingness and the ability to learn and try. We all are smart. However, it is our decision tap into our brain and actually give an effort to learn the material before us. You may struggle in trying to understand something, but the importance lies in the effort that you put forth. That is being smart.
Making the conscious choice of giving up and not learning is the choice to stay ignorant. The decision to opt out and not even give it a shot makes you ignorant. There’s so much to know in this world.
A big peeve of mine is when people think that they know it all and act like they’re better than everyone else around them. Maybe they are better than those around them, but for goodness sake! There’s approximately seven billion people in the world! You only know a small fraction of the world! It may feel like that you know everything, but in reality, you just know your one seven billionth piece of the world.
Making the grades and such comes as a byproduct of being smart (unless you cheated). It is remaining inquisitive, making that extra effort, and being a lifelong learner that makes a person smart.
There’s always some days where you just want to sit down and give up. It feels like the world is against you. It could be one of those slow days where you don’t want to do anything- the lack of motivation wallowing in your bones.
GET UP AND DO IT! You’ve come so far; it’s not the time to give up. All that effort will go to waste if you decide to give up. You can almost smell that sweet aroma of victory, just tantalizingly out of reach. You’re almost there! All the blood, sweat, and tears will be worth it once you reach that goal of yours. Don’t give up because things are hard. It will make you become a stronger and better person. Not only will others believe in you, but you will also believe in yourself and your abilities.
While writing this post, I asked my friend about one of her friends. It was such a coincidence that she told me that she wasn’t friends with the person anymore because her situation related to what I was writing about at the time. It was just really cool for me to see that happen.
The phrase “the grass always looks greener on the other side” holds some truth to it. Sometimes I reflect back on the past and just wish that certain things would go back to the way they were. But I realized that it’s not necessary the circumstances around us that change, we change.
It sucks that maybe the friends you were close with drift away or had a fall out. Or maybe your relationships with others have become strained. But let me just tell you that these type of things happen for a reason. It can teach you that this friendship is the one that can handle the fire and shape into something more. It can be that moment where you realize “hey I think I’m better off without you/them”. It can teach you to forgive, move on, or be the bigger person. Or that you’re just in a different stage in your life than the people around you.
Whatever experience it is, we change from the incident- some for the better, some for the worse. Stuff happens, but that’s just life. What matters most is that you learn from the experience and grow from it. Embrace the change because it’s not going away.
In my English literature class, we’re currently reading Heart of Darkness by Joseph Conrad. The teacher asked us to write this question down on the inside cover of the book: Can I go into the darkest part of myself and come out ok?
For my first three years of high school, there was a lot of uncertainty and chaos going on in my life. My environment had changed; my friend group shifted; GPA and SAT suddenly mattered a great deal (and continue to do so); the family life was not going too great. During that time, I reached a very low point where I really questioned everything around me.
Now as a senior, I reflect upon the past years of my life in high school. The problems still exist. But they’re only as big as I make them to be. I’ve realized how far I have come, emotionally and spiritually. Without those difficult times, I would not be the person I am today. In this regard, I am thankful for the times I felt helpless because it showed me that I can make it through. I can manage life and be ok.
So, I think I can answer the question. Yes, I can go into the darkest part of myself and come out ok (albeit there may be some scratches and bruises). But I will come out stronger and rise above the darkness.
I’m really bad about comparing myself to others. And I always ask myself, “Why am I not as successful as them?”
Here’s some of the conclusions I’ve come to:
I should have practiced more.
I’m just not that smart.
I didn’t give it my best effort.
And maybe all of that is true. But I also have to remind myself that not everyone can be the best. Even fewer are the best at everything they do. There’s only so much you can do. There will always be winners and losers in life.
I also believe that everyone has a natural proclivity for something. Given time and cultivation, that natural proclivity can become something greater. You see, if everyone had the same talent, it would make the world kinda boring. We all have our talents. Just some are not as visible as others.
Comparing makes me unhappy, so I try to avoid it. I try not to know other people’s ranks or GPA because I know that I will compare myself. I try not to care about the amount of likes I get for a post or picture. I deleted snapchat to avoid the comparison problem (explained in earlier post).
I just want to be a better me and be happy with what has been given to me.
I wrote about this quote in an earlier post but here it is again.
Too often, I see people trying to gain favor in the “cool clique”. In the process, they lose their identity. They change the way they dress, pick up interests that they don’t necessarily like, change their behavior around them, and sadly abandon their true friends to hang out with the “in crowded”. Or someone gets a significant other and forget the rest of the world around them. The list can go on and on.
My question is this. Are you afraid to be alone? To not have anyone to hang out with? To not be texting or snapchatting anyone? To be not considered cool? You do realize that 90% of people you associate with today will be gone after graduation. In the grand scheme of things, being in a certain clique is really not important. Yes, your friends can make you happy, but are you happy with yourself? Are you truly content? The void will always exist if you choose to not address it. Friends and significant others can dull that void, but for it to truly go away, you have to learn how to be content with yourself first. You have to learn to be your own person first.